I am 34 and have a brother who is 30. He has been addicted to drugs for about 13 years now. The past 5-7 have been particularly bad, because he is now on heroin. He has robbed (including from family), been shot at, stabbed, homeless, jailed-you name it. My parents do not have a lot of money, but my dad married a woman who does, so he is much more comfortable now. All of these years, my parents and stepmother (who has a daughter with a history of addictions), have sent my brother to one rehab after another. My dad has probably spent 30,000 between rehabs, fines, cars and the rest of the stuff. Recently, my brother had been clean for a while, was given a new start in life and blew it after a month when he started on the heroin again. My dad became very upset and FINALLY refused to get involved. My mom promised me she would not take him back, yet she is letting him live with her in a tiny apartment. She and I are not speaking; she emailed me and said he was in an intensive treatment program at day and going to meetings every night. That is a lie; he met a woman who is also an addict and is spending his days with her. He called my dad yesterday and my dad said since he sounded good, he has to communicate with him now and help him.

Meanwhile, my husband and I are struggling to make ends meet. I cannot find work. I finally broke down and for the first time in my life, asked for help. He sent me a check for 200 bucks and told me I can pay it back when I can……he is going on a cruise soon, and they are taking my stepsister and her husband, who is into cocaine.

My dad said I need to stop being so upset. I am so hurt. I have never done anything wrong, my husband is a good man and we are decent people. Yet, all I get is criticism. I have shed so many tears over my brother, I think I am out of them.

Why do my parents favor my brother and my stepsister, who are nasty to them and have no morals whatsoever? They talk to them in a horrible way and expect handouts. It is sickening to watch. I don’t get it. They give them everything and will not cut the strings.

My husband is making me send the 200 back. It is not even the money, it is just a question of why? It seems like I am being punished for being decent.

Anyone have a family like this?

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My husband is getting out of a 6 month drug rehab program on Friday. I want to know if it is ok to allow him to drink alcohol or not. Alcohol was never a problem for him, cocaine was his only addiction. I do not drink very often. I will maybe have 1 or 2 drinks every couple of months. I just wanted to know if I should ban all alcohol from our home? I just need some guidance on this one. Serious, helpful answers please.

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If a child is 18 or over, is there a legal way to force them into rehab for drug and/or alcohol addiction?

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

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I dated a girl for 6 yrs and helped raise her children actually I did raise the boys for 6 yrs the past yr I noticed a big change into our relashionship Not helping out as a Family just doing her own thing and after A yr of this I Asked her to move and Offered to give her money to get an Apt She Declined and move into a Friends house , I found out what the Change was Shes Addicted to Rx Drugs and since shes moved out She lost her close friend . She Lost me . And just was fired from her job She moved in with a guy who drinks and gets wasted every night along with herself and I just found out hes leaving her to .The only reason she contacts me is for Money she claims is for the boys to buy food . So I cut all ties with her and told her leave me alone its hard to see how hard she looks and her I dont care attitude its not fare to the two boys I called my own . I offered to send her to rehab she says she has no drug addiction I said let me raise the boys she says no How should I help Them

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My best friend got hooked on dope for about a year now. Actually, both of us started to take dope when we were during our junior years but fortunately, I got out from this vile habit thanks to my parents. However, my best friend is still on that stuff and it is gradually taking its toll on our friendship. I’m really afraid and guilty right now since I’m the one who urged him to try it out.

I feel that it is now my duty as his friend to help him recover from this addiction. Now, I would like to know if you guys can show me any program or treatment that can help my friend lead a clean life again. Thanks guys.

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Well I’m ready to overcome my addiction and, I’ve found the perfect residental drug rehab program. With financial assistance I’ll receive a 50% discount. So somewhere between the time when pigs fly and hell freezes over I’ll be able to come up with 8,000 for 1 month of treatment. WOW. Please can someone point me in the right direction for good treatment that won’t involve me having to sell my a** to pay for it. L O L
THANKs

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I had read that family members were trying diligently to get her into rehab…but, you can’t believe everything that you read…ya know?
Would you have any inside answers….or know the “reality” of those stories..or do you, just believe that she may or not may not , have a huge problem..and should her ex-hubby get sole custody of the baby boys?
What R your thoughts? And why?

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iver been to a lot of different out patient AODA treatment facilitys, 1 NA concentrated group home when i was 15, sober maybe 2 months. Then i was sent to rehab, when i was 16, i was sober for 6 months, but then relapesed, i dont like to do them though, but its like my body talkes over my brain, i cant even have a day without smokin a bowl, a christmas with coke.
i just hate shit right now and im lookin for help

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My friend has battling drug addiction since he was 18, he’s now 38. Because of the addiction, he’s spent most of his life in prison. He’s currently on probation now and has entered a rehab for 6 mos. He’s never worked The Steps. I’m hoping he’s doing this to help himself and to keep from finishing off his sentence. I know it’s going to be a struggle, but I wonder if he can do it. He use to tell me he couldn’t sleep at night, he dreamed of doing crack, he could smell it at times. We didn’t get together because I was scared he was going to relapse and go back to the street. He ended up marrying someone else and what I was scared of happened.

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